How to Love the Job You Hate

We already discovered why you hate your job. So now let’s find remedies for the situation. You’ve probably run out of excuses for why you are always sick or why you have so many “family emergencies” and it’s time to change the way you perceive work. Put that negative energy and bad attitude away and open your mind to some helpful thoughts.

First of all, you need to learn how to communicate. Tell your boss how you feel, make friends in the office, eat lunch with others, and be a team player. Communication is essential to happiness. You will get the feeling that others in your office understand you and might be having the same rough time at work. Next you need to delegate. If you take on every project yourself your head is going to explode. Not literally, but your head will hurt pretty badly. Your co-workers are there to help you. Reach out to them if you need assistance with a project and the giant migraine will disappear soon enough. You also need to seek feedback from your co-workers and boss. Hearing praise every now and then will boost your self-esteem and your motivation to keep working as hard as you do. When you think you have done an outstanding job on an assignment, make sure others notice.

Make sure to have a little fun at work. Your office isn’t going to go to shambles if you take fifteen minutes to chat with a co-worker about last night’s episode of American Idol. Go ahead and laugh with other employees. You can have harmless fun as long as you also get your work done. Now here is a step that we all know but we probably don’t follow: be nice to your body and soul! Eat healthy, exercise, and get the right amount of sleep. You will feel a thousand times better and you won’t be the office grump anymore. And finally, get a life! Go do something fun outside of work. Make it home in time to play outside with your dog or go get ice cream with your family. Set a night once a week when you can go to a movie with your friends or go out dancing. Stop wishing that you had the time to do all these fun things and start making them a reality. Life won’t end because you had a little fun. Start communicating, reach out to others, have fun at work, and rid your brain of all the negativity and hate!


The Pet Peeves That Drive You to Hate Your Job

“Oh, you hate your job? Why didn’t you say so? There’s a support group for that. It’s called EVERYBODY, and they meet at the bar”.
–Drew Carey

It’s sad but true. Most of us hate our jobs. But why? Besides the obvious reason that you have to wake up early and actually go exert some effort in what you do, what is so horrific about working? Why are we all slaves to our career? Let’s explore some of the reasons why people hate their jobs.

1. You have idiot managers. You know you can do their job better than them and it drives you nuts!

2. Office politics. Whispering, backstabbing, gossiping, and a slew of other remarks that make you want to pull out your hair.

3. Long commutes. As if the work day wasn’t long enough you have to add an hour or two roundtrip drive on top of that.

4. No pat on the back for a job well done. You work your butt off and you never hear praise for it. It probably makes you cry a little on the inside that you are under appreciated, but your boss could care less that you pulled an all-nighter for that amazing work.

5. You have meetings in your off-hours. Why the heck was the meeting scheduled at 6 pm when you are getting ready to leave? And don’t even get me started on meetings that are held on the weekends!

6. The job you applied for has a different meaning then what you thought you would be doing. Half the time we commit to a job with a great title and minimum explanations on what the job has in store. Then we actually realize our job encompasses a whole lot more that we hadn’t bargained for.

So don’t get depressed about these things. The point of bringing these reasons to your attention is to refute the statement that we all hate our jobs. After all, hate is such a strong word. The only reason we hate these things is because we think we can’t change them. But all employees can turn hate into love with a little coaching. Stay tuned and learn how to stop groaning when that alarm clock goes off in the morning.

The Attack of the Mid-Life Crisis

Are you in your 40’s and tired, bored and sick of the daily grind? Is it that time in your life when you have the frightening thought of staying with your job or doing something totally daring and spontaneous in your life? Well we are all going to get to that point eventually. Let me tell you something – change isn’t a bad thing! After sitting in the same cubicle for twenty plus years we think of change as a monster in the workforce. But this isn’t the Boogieman lurking in the dark waiting to whisk you off to some new and foreign cubicle. This is a look at reality, your life and what you decide to make of it.

First you need to make a critical self-assessment. What are you good at? What do you have a degree in? Find your strengths and see how they can help you in the job force. Also, take the time to assess yourself and your skills in today’s world. Are your technology skills outdated? Do you have up to date computer and Internet proficiencies? See where you would stand in the current job force if you became an applicant.

After you make this self-assessment you can see if you need to go back to school or not. Did you leave school for some extra cash to waitress and never made it back to earn a degree? Maybe now is the time to get that degree or take a few computer classes. Going back to school can lead you down a completely new and interesting job path.

Make sure you study the job market. See what jobs are hot right now and do your research on the careers you are interested in. What if you have a passion for real estate but the market is sluggish right now? Think of all of the different paths you can take and the different career choices. Maybe even think of relocating to spice things up a bit. Whatever you decide you have to take the time to research the job market and the specific industries that interest you. If you have always wanted to own your own boutique then by all means go for it. Just make sure you understand how a business works and how much it costs before you quit your job now.

Everyone is going to go through a mid-life crisis. Just don’t get rash and quit your job without a plan of action! Evaluate the situation and see if you are really ready for that change in your life. It’s not as scary as you think.

Making that Great Impression – Part Two

Now that I have covered the basics on making your first impression at your new job, it is time to dive into more ways in which you can dazzle your coworkers. So what do employers eat up? Taking initiative! Being a self-starter shows that you want to work for the company and produce the best results. Don’t sit around waiting for a new task to be assigned to you. Be proactive and volunteer to do assignments even if you need a little guidance. People will appreciate your efforts and learn to trust you more with bigger assignments.

Another great tip which you should always abide by is avoiding office gossip. This is a big don’t! Any office you work in is going to be full of gossip and office politics. Your job is to avoid getting involved at all costs. Even if you don’t start a rumor it doesn’t matter; don’t repeat anything you hear. Whether the gossip is true or false it can jeopardize your job and make you look like either a liar or a gossip queen. Trash talking your coworkers is a sure way to land you in trouble or get yourself fired. So steer clear of office politics!

One of the best tips that I have taken to heart is participating in after-hours activities. Whether it involves company parties, happy hours, going out to dinner with coworkers or a company sports league, these activities can show that you care about the people you work with and that you want to get to know them outside of the office. Having this extra time to learn about their family, their hobbies and their goals in life helps you to bond with them. Not only can you find out that you have more in common with some coworkers than you thought, but making an appearance at parties shows that you have dedication to the company. Making that extra effort outside of work will be an excellent reflection on you as an employee. Believe me, your boss will remember the faces he or she sees at an after-hours gathering.

Finally, one of the most basic tips is probably the most important one – work full days and maintain a good attendance. Because you are new at a company you need to show your hard work and dedication by working longer hours than you normally would. Try to keep your sick days to a minimum and leave your personal time for the weekend. Be flexible with the needs of the company for the first few weeks you are there. After you have made an impression and feel comfortable then you can take longer lunch breaks and come in late after a doctor’s appointment.

Making a great impression takes some hard work on your part, but if you follow these steps it will all pay off in the end.

Making that Great Impression – Part One

You landed the new job. Time to celebrate! The first couple of weeks can be tough though. First impressions about you are going to shape your coworkers minds and leave a lasting idea on the type of person you are. These impressions can make an impact on your future potential and success with the company. So let’s make these impressions positive! Here are some tips on how to make a great first impression and fit in with your coworkers.

This will always be rule #1: Have a positive attitude. Be a team player, be willing to jump into any situation or problem to help solve it, show enthusiasm and leave non-work related problems at home. Your optimism will radiate through the entire office and leave your coworkers in a positive state as well.

Now for a silly yet significant step: Learn your coworkers names! It might sound dumb and trivial but it will make people respect you more and treat you as a member of the team. If you forget someone’s name then simply apologize and ask them for it again. Identifying your coworkers will help you bond with them and separate them from just another face in the crowd.

Finally, it is imperative that you ask for help from the veterans when you need it. Don’t be afraid to ask questions! You were just thrown into a new role and you aren’t expected to know everything. Ask your coworkers for help and LISTEN to what they have to say. Be open minded, cooperative and take advice from the dinosaurs of the company. Those experienced guys could actually teach you something.

These are just the basics on making that great impression at a new company. You need to be eager, reflect a positive attitude and be willing to listen to your coworkers. Remember that you’re the rookie and that impressing these people has become part of your new full time job.

Background checks. Oh, they matter.

Did you know that a potential employer could ask your neighbors about you? Under a background check, an interview of neighbors and friends is considered an ‘investigative consumer report’ and is perfectly legal. While they must inform you of their doing so, it is perfectly alright for them to ask about your character, style of living and other such questions.  

While most employers don’t check out their candidates this extensively, they certainly have the right to do so. If this worries you, you may want to check out why they’re doing such an extensive background check on you and what it’s all about.  

In the narrowing job market, employers are taking hiring more seriously. Fewer jobs means more applications for each opening they do have and presumably, they want the best of the best. This means that, while it’s more effort, background checks will possibly become more routine.  

Also, don’t forget the Google factor. The easiest way to quickly assess someone for a position is to Google them. Do you know what’s out there under your name? Remember, you are what Google says you are.  

One more thing. MySpace and Facebook are really great networking tools. But they’re also really great for potentially ruining your job search. It’s nice to go out and party every once in a while, but remember to have your friends NOT put up those pictures when you’re looking for a job. Even if you’re not, you don’t want your reputation made for you.

Explaining the Gaps

Those employment gaps on your resume can raise plenty of red flags for employers. Their imagination is running wild and they will think of anything and everything that you did in those unexplained 4 years away from work. Maybe she married rich and left the workforce. What if he won the lottery and went on an African safari? I bet she robbed a bank and was locked up for a few years. Yes, these answers can be absolutely absurd. But they are legitimate until you are able to explain yourself. No one can clarify the glaring gaps on your resume better than yourself. So Lucy, you got some ‘splainin to do!

First of all, don’t worry if you have employment gaps. Most people do. Whether it was a pregnancy or a sickness that kept you from work, you most likely need to explain this to prospective employers. What better way to do this then a cover letter. One of the great uses of a cover letter is to explain why gaps exist – hiring managers never like to guess! The more time you take to explain up front, the better chances you have at landing the interview and ultimately the job. Contrary to popular belief, most employers actually do have a soft side and they can understand your situation. Just because you were out of the workforce for a few years doesn’t mean you lost your talent or capabilities. Prove to them in your cover letter that you are still smart, qualified, enthusiastic, and driven in any position you are given.

This is why cover letters exist – to give details about your work history and clarify any bumps that you experienced along the way. Don’t let employers’ imaginations run wild. Give them a reason and they will respect you as a candidate.